Sunday, June 26, 2005

What a difference a few days makes

I know I have hardly been prolific this last week or so but rest assured that I have been keeping up with y'all and commenting here and there. We have had some good and some bad happen. Let's get the bad out of the way. My husband's sister passed away yesterday afternoon. She had battled cancer for a couple of years now. It started as uterine and by the time she passed, it was just everywhere. We made it up to the hospital to see her and her condition was shocking to me. She and I have not been close for quite some time due to her thinking I was pretty much going to toss her brother's heart onto the ground and stomp on it, so I had very little exposure to her since she was ill. Yesterday, I mainly went because I did not want my husband driving across the river by himself because even early on in the day, the news did not sound good and I was not sure if when he was coming home later, it would be because she died, ya know? Anyways, we went and brought my father and mother in law with us. There is a long story why my sister in law and her step mother do not get along but for purposes here, let's just say there was tension and leave it at that. Anyways, MIL was not really wanting to go to the hospital but we all went so I suppose she just sort of tagged along. Anyways, we ended up leaving a few hours later because the doctor said it could be hours or days. We had driven the in-laws and my FIL was crying and really wanted to go home, so we decided to take them home and just keep in touch with SIL's husband. Well, long story short, we were called back to the hospital a few short hours later and ended up not making it there. I really wish we had not left but we did what we thought was right at the time. The wake is Tuesday night with the funeral being Wednesday. My husband and father in law are dealing with things as well as can be expected I suppose. This was my husband's only sibling so in that way, it was rough. However, I know that both of them are glad that she is no longer hurting. It got very difficult for her there towards the end.
What is so weird is that this is all going on during what is supposed to be an exciting chapter in our life - the closing on our home. It is very odd. Like I am excited but I feel guilty about even being excited because of what else is going on. I think we are just going to try to take it a day at a time and deal with it. I think that maybe with all the hoopla of moving and unpacking and crap may be good for my husband in that it will distract his mind a little, ya know? Rather than sitting there trying not to think about it and stew. I know it won't take the pain away but at least there is something pleasurable in our lives that we can focus on. All I know is that we are both tired and can use something that will take our brains on vacation. Someone needs to patent that - brain vacations. I would like a two week one please.

Elizabeth at 9:34 PM

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at 11:25 PM Torrie said...: I have two people very close to me battling cancer.

What I've learned is, sometimes you just have to be "normal" and live your life.
at 11:57 PM Sherriatric said...: I'm so sorry for your and your husband's loss.

However, I'm glad that you have something positive to focus on and look forward too.
at 8:02 AM Anonymous said...: I am sorry for you and your husband's loss. -Dan
at 10:18 AM Weetzie said...: Very sad for you. I hope the moving can be the healthy activity you need to get you through a very tough time. *hugs*
at 1:33 PM Shari said...: So sorry to hear about your SIL. Hope you and your husband are doing ok.
at 3:01 PM Nessa said...: I had a long comment written out, but it dealt with the grieving process and how bad men are with it. Since your hubby's a FF, he's probably had to learn how to grieve properly, so I won't go there. Just know that I am sorry and will keep ya'll in my prayers!
at 3:55 PM Candy said...: I am sorry to hear about her passing, its hard to deal with good news and tragic all at the same time, but its nice to know your family is settling into a place of your own. Congratulations and my condolences all at the same tme.
at 6:02 PM Kathryn said...: I'm so, so sorry for your loss. that really sucks. Let us know if you need anything.
at 2:12 AM beautiful face said...: My thoughts are with you babe. Hang in there and just take at least a few good deep breaths a day.