Wednesday, October 19, 2005

Open memo to the ex-wife

I hate you.

The end.

OK, not quite. I am tired of worrying about you knowing shit about my life. I am tired of you using any and all excuses to drain my husband and me of our money. I am tired of you only having the kids call me when they need me to do something. I am tired of having to act like we are civil when we are not and frankly I see no reason for us to be. I am tired of the kids not seeing you for what you are. I am tired of the kids believing what you say strictly on blind faith - even if what you say is about their father and is clearly not true. I am tired of not being able to sit where I want when we go to the step-daughter's games because I don't want to be that close to you. I am tired of your family making me uncomfortable. I am tired of all of this getting to me. I am therefore letting it all go. As of now. I am not going to act like this any more. Your influence on my life is sick. We have been in each other's lives for 9 years now. Whether you realize it or not, I am here to stay. How much the kids are in our lives is up to them, not you. We will continue to be here for them in good times and bad but will not be forced to feel bad that the time we do have is far too little. Most of all I am tired of the fact that you have such an all encompassing hold on my husband's children that he is too afraid to speak to you about something because it might ruin Homecoming Week for his daughter. He knows that it will result in a giant brou haha and sadly, he is probably right. So, ex, I am tired. I know this sounds wrong and will come out bad but I can't wait until the kids no longer live with you and are on their own because THEN we don't have to deal with you. I do love those kids. A lot. That is what bugs you. If I was a horrible person who yelled at your kids and tried to keep their father away from them, you would get a sick sort of satisfaction out of that, wouldn't you? You and I both know the answer to that. Well, I'm done. You do not win. You no longer will have the hold on my life that you have had up til now. I am through with you. You are a weak powerless person who feeds off manipulating people. Well, I am not letting you manipulate me any more. I am not going to allow you to manipulate my husband either. If he does not grow and set and start dealing with you, then I will deal with you. If the kids have to hate someone, fine - let it be me. I can take it. He can't. So fuck off. You and I are DONE.

Elizabeth at 9:29 PM

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at 10:14 PM Kami said...: SOOOOOOO glad that the hubs and the ex didn't procreate. Sorry you have to deal with that shit.
at 6:46 AM Elizabeth said...: Oh, Kami, they did procreate. I have two step children that I love, but I still hate her.
at 8:47 AM Nessa said...: i'm sorry darlin!
at 10:12 AM Danielle said...: damn gurl sorry you have to deal with that bullshit
at 11:48 AM Anonymous said...: Not all ex's are bad. I am very nice. Sometimes the new wifes are bitches...
at 12:57 PM honkeie said...: WOW, after reading this I would have sworn you might have been my wife LOL. We have a similar probelm but not as bad and only one child in the middle. And its always the children that suffer when they are lied to by one of the parents in hoping they could hurt the other.